The Cure to a Dead Bedroom

I am particularly sympathetic to a dead bedroom situation because I know sex to be deeply cathartic, healing, and comforting. There’s a lot to discus and, of course, no one set cure-all to this issue but I believe this is a start. I have written quite extensively about sex and love and marriage and of course as I have mentioned in comments my husband is an incredible hypnotist and we tend to collaborate on many issues. I have a ton of things to say but I thought I would tackle this first.

There is a connection between heartfelt homemaking and a lively sex life. When a woman begins to contemplate:

“How do I make my home more inviting?”

“How can I welcome people into this space?”

“Where can we gather in our home?”

It can naturally transition to:

“How can I make myself more inviting for my husband?”

“How can I welcome my husband into my body?”

“Where can we gather as husband and wife?”

Our home is an extension of ourselves. When the woman takes ownership of her domain in the home she can welcome her husband more easily into her body and he can feel more amorous. My husband and I both work full time. I am not home all day frivolously decorating or spending lots of money. I make most of our art and decor by hand and try and infuse as much love into every stitch that I can. I arrange what we already have so that I can communicate “you are welcome here”.

One of the many curses of our modern day world is the home has become a no man’s land. The home is the most important part of our lives. It is the springboard from which everything will grow. If we can beautify our homes, everyone in the house will endeavor to keep it beautiful.

So men: encourage your wife to start beautifying your home. Be gentle and encouraging. Come from an angle of praise and love. Indulge her sex won’t come from obligation, taunts or jabs. Women: take ownership of your home. When you invite your man into your home and body he won’t be able to keep his hands off you.